Sleep when your baby sleeps?

Sleep while your baby sleeps? 

Everyone under the sun likes to preach "sleep while your baby sleeps"! Who does this advice come from and what does this well rested beauty look like? 

This has never been advice I've been able to follow and the more mobile Lola got the more the thought of it alone made me laugh. Once you get a mobile baby you can't do anything without their helpful assistance. There's days I tell myself "today I will nap" and then the time comes and my self diagnosed OCD kicks in. Something comes over me and it's go time!

I do however consider myself a great multi-tasker so I clean and catch up on trashy tv at the same time ;). The house isn't perfect but it's tidy and that helps keep me sane. When shits everywhere, my crazy is top notch! 

Of course when Lola wakes up that clean house doesn't last long because we play, I cook dinner, we shower and snuggle. It's the never ending clean/messy cycle. 

Guilt confession from a part-time working mama

I am so fortunate for my work schedule and to honestly say I love my job, but I'd be lying if some mornings I didn't feel guilty for packing my snuggle bug into the car and taking her to daycare. The nights I'm not there to put her down can be the toughest. 

Yes my work mornings can be a complete shit show getting out the door but I cherish my mornings with Lola. She wakes up smiling and wants to snuggle and watch cartoons. When I'm getting ready she'll come give me love and mimic me in the mirror, love that girl. 

We're finally ready and off we go. When we get to our destination Lola starts saying the daycare providers name, we open the door and she runs to her with open arms and they give hugs. I ask Lola for a kiss and tell her daddy will see her when he gets off. 

She loves daycare, so why do I even let that guilt in? 

I work to help provide for my family and I work for Me! Working part-time allows me to be the best version of myself. I get to work with my wolf-pack and I get to laugh and vent and sometimes order takeout ;). Work allows me to recharge and it also allows Mark and Lola to have their special time. 

So after reading a blog from Momtastic (http://www.momtastic.com/health/488849-run-business-care-three-kids-without-losing/?utm_source=Momtastic+Newsletter&utm_campaign=010becd0a4-Refuse_to_Do_for_Kids1_12_2015&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_2eb6743921-010becd0a4-154593145) this morning, I'm going to follow her step # 5. Ditch the guilt sister! What a great reminder! I want Lola to see her mama as a women who does the best she can and who enjoys her life. 

30 Week Update

Hitting the 30 week mark this week and I'm in shock as to how fast its flying by. I either blacked out when I was pregnant with Lola or I am definitely struggling a little more with the body changes this time around. With Lola I gained close to 35 lbs. I got minimal stretch marks on one side of my lower belly, upper thighs, and a couple stragglers on my love handles. Just enough to make me self conscience in my bathing suit. I've come to the conclusion that any changes to a women's body can make her self conscience, it doesnt have to be the worst case for your feelings to be valid. With baby # 2 I've been using Mustela (stretch marks double action). My Sil recommended it and she carried twins with no stretchmarks  so in my eyes she is an expert;). 
New pregnancy symptoms  have consisted of waking up to strip my clothes off, go potty, and refill my ice water. Usually followed by an hour or two of 20/20 or dateline until I can fall back asleep. 
As I am now officially counting down instead of counting my weeks in pregnancy, I am getting excited to bring another baby girl into the crazy Gonzalez house. I know Lola will be  the best big sister. She can be a sour patch kid at times but she is the sweetest little cuddle bug. She's been putting diapers on her stuffed animals and patting their backs, "shh, shh shh". As for Mark I swear that man was born to be a daddy. He is totally in his element with Lola and I know baby won't be any different. 
Any tips for bringing a baby home with a toddler would be greatly appreciated. I can't help but worry about Lola and making the transition as enjoyable as possible.

 

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The Mama Behind The Coffee

With pregnancy insomnia in full swing this girls wheels are constantly turning... I'm a wife, mama, salon owner, part time hair stylist, family member, friend, and occasional nut case. The blog inspiration started when I got pregnant with baby number 2. I found myself on a daily basis talking to myself. Usually a "what the fuck?!?" As I'm trying to get out the door and get Lola to daycare and myself to work on time, I have Lola walking in between my legs my hands full of stuff and dogs barking.... and I'm suppose to do this with a newborn? Yep totally got this. Like any mom I read blogs, tips, emails, etc. I have found many recommendations that have made my day to day life so much easier and I have also read advice from those wondering where the heck they are hiding their fairy dust. I feel accomplished making dinner 5 nights a week and then I hear super mom down the street grew her own organic garden and makes some 3 course spread every night. How? I'm trying to keep clean laundry and find time for sex because my marriage is the foundation of all this crazy. So this blog will be me unfiltered, things from motherhood, marriage, family ties, and some must haves along the way. I'm looking forward to hearing from fellow mamas and how your tackling life and what makes you happy along the way.